I've never liked conflict. I avoid it as much as possible.
But I also know that I take space, that my personality is projected out into the world and in the presence of others it impresses itself on others, often times without me even knowing it, and the same occurs as others project themselves.
Sometimes it projects too far; it attempts to eclipse the other. It is that conflict, that flash of a contradiction that can flare up very suddenly, that helps me to see again.
And further, I think a lot of personal (and I guess cultural and political) animosity comes from the anticipation of an aggrieved party that some offending personality is seeking to eclipse their own personality, and that this intrusion is set to expand indefinitely, ultimately to crush them.
Sometimes it is true, and sometimes it isn't. You just have to let them know that you are there.
