Where there are dramatic changes in life experience, there arise tensions between the worldviews that form out of them. That is because the nature of a given experience is noncommunicable. All that can be communicated is its result.
There is a lineage of experience, so to speak. There are a given set of life experiences that only reveal themselves after one has progressed through them. One's communication of them is possible after one has gone through them in sequence, and can situate them in relation to the surrounding world.
There is much that can be triangulated through communication and compassion, and plenty of life experiences can converge in their nature. But especially in extreme cases, the experience has to be lived through in its entirety, as it alters the landscape of one's perception and state of being, in addition to informing one's worldview.
