It is not that rock bands, alcohol, and holiday celebrations are necessarily destructive in themselves, any more than the intentionality to join things together is destructive. The destructiveness occurs in the modalities in which they are carried out, and in the relationships within which they take place.
The question is what is to be joined together? How will it be done? Does it want to be joined together?
Metals for example can be joined together in a variety of ways, but if there is to be a lasting bond, a very specific and appropriate process is required, which is typically done right the first time and then left alone. If one continuously heats and reheats a piece of metal for example, or bends it every which way and/or crimps it to make it fit, the metal will weaken, with every continuous attempt making it weaker until it breaks and/or becomes useless.
In the same way, the modern blockbuster rock band, with its need to please the greatest number and grow market share, must twist its members together in a configuration that befits such an aim, regardless of the nature of the individual. And this must be continuously done as the volatility of such a society necessitates constant adjustment.
If any given rock band biopic is any indication, the group manages to produce temporary leaps into the stratosphere for its members, before setting them against each other and producing misery and personal and social dissolution.
And alcohol in small amounts lubricates all manner of joyous activity, but then with too much, it produces discord and instability, and leaves the individual with more anxiety and pain than they started with.
Or take the holiday celebration, with its intent to periodically renew familial bonds and focus the attention on a given array of cultural meaning, which for many in the modern world ends up pulling a bunch of people together who don't want to be together, and who quarrel and squabble and all come away mutually chaffed.
One can join together with intention, but it must be done with care, and with a wariness of the external pressures of a culture that uses these mechanisms to artificially join together whatever does not want to be together.
